Season’s Sound Winter ’18

This Season’s Sound –
Songs I have on repeat


Revvin My Cj7 – Summer Salt
Alien Boy – Oliver Tree
Super Rich Kids – Frank Ocean
Eighty-Four – The Strypes
Hearts Aint Gonna Lie – Arlissa
Loft Music – The Weeknd
Night Ride – The Growlers
Sweet To Me – Summer Salt
Sunflower – Rex Orange County
Why do You Feel so Down – Declan Mckenna
When You Were Made – The Growlers

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Look Left

Look left, look right, look left again.
A simple safety phrase embedded in our minds from well before ten

a way to keep safe on our dangerous roads,
a way to make sure you don’t get hit by one of those bloody clueless taximen.

Told by Ronald to ‘make it click’
just a company trying to have some ethic,
it’s simple logic –
keep our children away from harm.

But let me tell you this,
to look left, look right, look left again is not going to save our children from their biggest danger,
themselves.

We have an epidemic on our hands and it’s being treated like the plague;
stay away, be vague
afraid of something out of my hands,
but I’m not the only one.

Our own government is too scared to touch the ferrel topic that is mental health
they go about it with stealth.
The S word is to vile for schools,
knelt on a pedestal of insecurity and fear
that educating the youth on what being mentally ill means
will trigger a tsunami of teens
taking their lives from just the mention of it.

How ironic though,
this tsunami has already come and is still pushing through our nation,
we know too call *555 when we see a dangerous driver
but 99 percent of us are none the wiser on what the suicide crisis hotline is.

0800 543 354.

But what’s more,
is that Mike King came to see us and talk about mental health out of his own pocket
but the government said for god’s sake Mike stop it,
we have our own way to deal with teen suicide,
Silence.

That’s right,
the government has even constructed a script
for teachers to yip
for when a student takes their own life
so they don’t trip on words that may contain actual emotion.

This script is designed
to lessen our understanding and grip
on why suicide occurs,
therefore we cannot succour or transfer help and ways to cope
when someone is losing hope.
The mighty Waikato had the second highest suicide rates in New Zealand after Canterbury,
and it’s not just silly girls taking petty dramas to the nth degree.

It’s young men that feel they have no future but are scared to plee
because emotion is treated like an obscenity;
the mental scars and debris
that stand from an upbringing that leans on the phrase
boys don’t cry.

But why?

Why do we force boys into box
of loneliness and solitude.
We all know they fear
of being accused of homoxexulity
or being branded a ‘pussy’ by their own peers
and we blame this attitude on boys will be boys but,
we have as a society conditioned boys to shy away from sentiment
be afraid of feeling therefore grow resentment
for those that can express a full range of emotions, not just testosterone fuelled anger or lust.
This brazen attitude has branded New Zealand as the country
with the highest teen suicide rates in the developed world.

Health.govt.nz states
“The rate of suicide has remained relatively stable in the ten year period to 2014”
How can a government website be so shameless they demean the defining word?

I guess the higher ups have never understood mental health issues.
that’s why my great grandad who had a string of disorders
was made to undergo ‘electroshock therapy’
that did nothing but lead him off the roof of the hospital.
As he hit the ground his shockwaves made tidal waves that may only be lapping over my feet now,
but everyday people are making new tidal waves and nobody’s doing anything to help.

We brand those that take their own lives as selfish,
But those who run across a road to meet a car tragic,

What’s the difference?

We are uneducated on suicide
but have always been taught to look left, look right, look left again.

We are leaving those stuck in the headwaters of a toxic mind space behind.
The mental health system is failing us.

Us students have to grind through five years of high school,
all 1,200 of us all relying on two councillors for comfort,
this place is undeniably a cesspool
of detrimental attitudes,
not enough space in a year to see to all of us
never mind a week.

I am disgusted to say we live in a society where people only listen when you’re screaming
and even when they are we don’t have the time to care,
stop being so goddamn attention seeking!

We’ve stripped our dignity as a nation bare,
our future leaders’ faces blue from the lack of air
in their lungs, they fill with thick smoke of a nation plagued with an addiction to drugs,
an ignorance to the toll of depression,
and a dislike to freedom of unhappy expression
and then you wonder why teens are reaching the end of their ropes.
Is it wrong to begin to lose hope?

Because looking left, right, and left again isn’t going to protect us from
the teens falling from the sky,
those that fall off chairs and don’t hit the ground,
those that would rather just not be around.

We, a selfish nation need to change this,
because no, ignorance isn’t bliss
don’t dismiss this crisis.
Remember the number that should have
been etched into our brains from well before this.
0800 543 354

My Perfect Sleep Pamper Routine.

Getting a good night’s sleep is crucial to keeping a clear head and having a productive day. To get a restful night’s’ sleep isn’t actually as easy as it sounds. This is why I have this pamper routine that I love to use when I need to wind down and have a good rest. The products mentions are just my personal favourites and may not work as well for you, feel free to swap any of these out to suit your preferences.  

My Perfect Sleep Pamper Routine.

Little Things.

Sometimes, when you’re feeling down and out you need to take some time for yourself, but in a world where time is limited and stress is always looming it can be hard to unwind. These are some of my favourite little ways I take care of myself when I most need it.

Write & Walk –

When I’m feeling overwhelmed it’s so easy to lock myself in my room to mill over the issues I’m facing. Instead of this I like to spend some time writing (more scribbling) out what I’m feeling in a notebook, emptying out my brain of all negative thoughts or issues and then closing it. Getting rid of emotion that is clouding my judgement is so important so I can process issues rationally. After clearing my brain taking a walk is such a good way to re group sensible thoughts and think through whatever I need to without overwhelming myself.

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Read –

No matter what I’m reading I always feel more at peace with a good book and a nice steamy tea. Weather escaping to a cosy cafe or a park bench having a wee read is always a way I am able to unwind. I’ve just finished ‘Scar Tissue’ by Anthony Kiedis and I’m beginning to read ‘Call Me By Your Name’ by André Aciman, I can’t wait to get stuck in.

 

Listen –

Rocking out to some of my favorite music is always so therapeutic for me. Having a good jam session on the way home from a stressful day at work or school never fails to make me feel more upbeat and clear minded.  I love listening to happy, cheesy feel good music (think natasha bedingfield pocketful of sunshine.) It’s really hard to feel sad when you’re literally surrounded by happy.

 

Pamper –

Weather you are feminine or masculine a good warm bath and a face mask is always a great way to relax. As a lifelong Lush lover my favourite unwind combo is a simple avobath and / or butterball bomb in some hot water and slather of cupcake face mask all over my face and neck. The smell of these products alone is enough to lift any weight off my chest. If the warm moisturising soak isn’t enough when you hop out the lovely scents stick to you following you around in a sort of cocoa hug.

 

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If baths aren’t your thing a nice steamy shower is also great to de-stress. I love lushes’ whoosh shower jelly for a citrusy pick me up. If sweet smells are more your thing the BonBon factory make amazing sweet scented shower and body products that are all vegan.  I adore the gelato sugar scrub  for a lovely sweet pick me up.

 

Talk –

Sometimes it pays to just talk it out. It could be with a friend, a therapist, your cat. Whoever you trust vocalising your struggles is so much easier and healthier than keeping them in and letting them brew, because they will eventually bubble over. If I’m  struggling to vocalise what I’m feeling I head back to writing everything down, sorting out the junk and organising my feelings – it makes it much easier to be heard for what I actually want to say.

These are just a few ways I cope with stress and tricky situations. Everyone has their own mechanisms to overcome challenges in a healthy and constructive way. If you or someone you know is struggling to overcome issues make sure you reach out to someone you trust that can help.

Season’s Sound – Autumn ’18

This Season’s Sound –
Songs I have on repeat


Dope On Rope – The Growlers
Cola –  CamelPhat
My My My! – Troye Sivan
FUCKING YOUNG / PERFECT -Tyler The Creator
Gum, Toe and Soul – Gus Dapperton
You Say I’m In Love – Banes World
2 Hold You – Clario
Dance, Baby! – boy pablo
No Buses –  Arctic Monkeys
Heartbreak – Christian Leave
Two Angels- Daffodils
After The Storm – Kali Uchis
Save That Shit – Lil Peep
Chanel – Frank Ocean

It’s Okay To Change

We all hear it at some point. ‘You’ve changed.’ It’s something that has always been treated as something that shouldn’t happen, but as I grow up I realise that maybe, changing isn’t such a bad thing.

I’m just starting my 17th year on earth and, I’m pretty sure I’m a very different person as a I was when I was born (at least I hope I am) and what I’ve learned is that life shapes you. As if when we’re born were a little rolly crying lump of clay, and through the hands that hold you, the punches life throw at you and the things you grow through – you are crafted into who you are today.

Perhaps you’re still a work in progress, life still has more in store to shape you.

There’s no guarantee that it’ll be pleasant or fun but I guess life is what you make it, and I guarantee you can make it out the other end. The thing is, you can never know what is going to happen next but, would you really want to? Life is an adventure, if you knew what was coming how would you learn? How would you grow? Sometimes we need to be thrown out of our comfort zones to become more resilient – if we were never uncomfortable we’d spend our entire life in the womb, and nobody wants that.

Those that criticise change are often those that have not had the experiences others have, or haven’t learned as much as others from experiences. If you think you’re one of these people perhaps you need to become more aware of your surroundings, maybe you need to absorb more of the world around you. You might find that your outlooks begin to shift and grow. Don’t be scared of this! This is a sign of growing up, developing independent thoughts and opinions. This is how you’ll become your true self.

Embrace it.

Embrace Change.